Set Intentions Rather Than Rigid Resolutions

Military life requires adaptability. Resolutions that feel “all-or-nothing” aren’t always compatible with deployments, PCS orders, and training schedules. Instead of locking into a resolution, consider setting intentions—goals that act as guiding principles rather than strict mandates.

For example, rather than resolving to “practice mindfulness daily,” set an intention to “prioritize moments of calm and self-awareness.” This intention provides space for progress, even if a daily routine is disrupted. Intentions give you the freedom to progress at your own pace, encouraging consistency without frustration when the unexpected arises. 

Set SMART Goals to Keep You on Track

A helpful tool for translating intentions into actionable steps is the SMART framework: Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant, and Time-bound goals. Setting SMART goals allows you to break down intentions into structured, practical steps that are manageable, flexible, and trackable. 

• Specific: Instead of “I want to feel less stressed,” try “I’ll start each morning with 5 minutes of breathing exercises for a month.” 

• Measurable: You can count how often you complete this exercise, giving you a sense of accomplishment.

• Achievable: Five minutes is a realistic, manageable time frame.

• Relevant: Focusing on stress relief through breathing aligns with your mental health goal.

• Time-bound: Commit to this for one month, then assess if it’s something to continue or adjust. 

Account for Your Current Season of Life

Each stage of life brings unique circumstances. Perhaps you’re a soldier adjusting to a new unit, a spouse adapting to life at a new base, or a parent balancing family demands with the pressures of military service. Each situation has its own needs and stressors, which should influence the goals you set. 

When setting goals, consider what’s manageable for you in this season. It may not be realistic to set ambitious goals if you’re managing a PCS or deployment cycle. For a goal like “focus on self-care,” a simple step could be prioritizing one meaningful self-care activity per week, such as a quiet walk, journaling session, or coffee with a friend. This allows you to maintain mental well-being without overcommitting, making it easier to adjust when unexpected demands arise.

Build Rest and Flexibility into Your Goals

Military life can encourage high expectations, but rest and flexibility are essential for resilience. In my experience as a therapist, I’ve seen the mental health benefits of giving oneself permission to pause or adjust as needed. To help sustain your goals, consider building rest into your plans. 

If one of your intentions is to “maintain better emotional health,” give yourself space to skip a journaling session or take a day off if it feels right. Instead of aiming for perfection, focus on maintaining a steady pace. This approach helps you prevent burnout. 

Celebrate Small Wins to Build Momentum

Life demands resilience, and resilience is often built through small, consistent efforts. Celebrate each step forward, no matter how small it may seem. By recognizing these moments, you reinforce progress and encourage yourself. 

For example, if your goal is to “incorporate gratitude into my routine,” celebrate the days you manage to list just one thing you’re grateful for, even on difficult days. These small acknowledgments nurture your progress and remind you that growth is found in the every day, not only in the milestones.

Embrace Progress Over Perfection

In our military culture, there’s often a focus on performance and achievement. When it comes to personal growth, it’s important to remember that perfection isn’t the goal—progress is the goal. Growth doesn’t have to be linear. 

I often encourage my clients to adopt a growth mindset: focus on improvement rather than rigid standards. Allow yourself to experience setbacks without self-criticism. Embrace each small step as part of your journey, knowing that resilience is built through experiences, both good and bad, and that growth is a journey.

Connect with Your “Why” for Lasting Motivation

In the military where life can often feel dictated by external forces, it’s important to connect with your personal motivations. Understanding the “why” behind your goals keeps you grounded and your goals meaningful, rooted in what matters most to you.

Consider the following questions: 

• Why are these intentions important to me

• What drives me to pursue them? 

If your goal is to “prioritize family connection,” reflect on why that’s significant. It might be a desire to create stability for your children or strengthen your marriage during a demanding time. Remembering your “why” keeps you focused and committed, even when life becomes overwhelming.

Moving into the New Year with Compassion and Flexibility

As we welcome another year, let’s approach our goals with a spirit of compassion and adaptability. Military life is anything but predictable, so by setting intentions that support our well-being, we’re giving ourselves room to grow sustainably. The New Year isn’t about immediate transformation - it’s an opportunity to nurture meaningful growth that serves you and your family throughout the year. Let this be a time to create SMART goals that sustain and empower you, grounded in the adaptability and resilience that define our military community.

This upcoming year, let’s embrace our journey as it unfolds, honoring the small steps, facing the challenges with resilience, and celebrating the victories along the way. Here’s to a new year of intentional growth, steady progress, self-compassion, and a supportive approach to goal-setting that embodies the unique strength and adaptability of our community.

Tyrese Cook, also known as Re, is a devoted military spouse and proud mother to five daughters—including two sets of twins—who brings warmth, insight, and a touch of humor to every subject she explores. Tyrese, a non-denominational Christian with a master’s degree in social work, is a licensed social worker in Ohio and Kentucky. Drawing on her faith and expertise, she is passionate about mental health and committed to helping others reach their full potential with compassion and understanding. Recently featured with her family on CNN, United on the RoK, and The OCONUS Project, Tyrese’s life and work reflect her deep commitment to family, love, and resilience. Outside of her work and family life, she delights in cooking creative meals, diving into captivating books, and experiencing the world’s diverse cultures. Follow her journey on Facebook, YouTube, and Instagram at @AuthenticallyRe. 

*The information provided in this article is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended to replace professional mental health treatment or to serve as a diagnosis or treatment for any health condition. This article does not establish a client/therapist relationship between the author and the reader. Readers should consult their own licensed medical or mental health providers for personalized advice and treatment for any concerns related to their health or well-being. Always seek the guidance of your own qualified professionals regarding any specific questions or concerns you may have regarding your health.